Actual conversation tonight, only slightly paraphrased.
Woman: this treatment of women in that advertising campaign bothers me.
Men: well, it doesn't bother me.
Woman: ...yeah, that's kind of missing the point of "it bothers those actually affected." What we hear is "it didn't bother me so if it bothers you that's your problem," which is a notable lack of empathy and actually listening to us.
Men: Why are you picking on me? why are you being so sensitive? Aren't we allowed to have our opinions about what affects you?
Woman: this treatment of women in that advertising campaign bothers me.
Men: well, it doesn't bother me.
Woman: ...yeah, that's kind of missing the point of "it bothers those actually affected." What we hear is "it didn't bother me so if it bothers you that's your problem," which is a notable lack of empathy and actually listening to us.
Men: Why are you picking on me? why are you being so sensitive? Aren't we allowed to have our opinions about what affects you?