why I hate people, reason #6482

[lagilman]

Having just overhead a conversation walking back from lunch, I have to vent.

Gentlemen? Considering the emotional investment and physical self-worth y'all seem to have wrapped up in the size of your sexual organ, how much money seems to be spent in the hopes of enlarging it a single inch, and how hurt you are if even the slightest hint is made that it may on the small side? If you then turn around and make comments about a woman's sexuality based on the size of her breasts*, that makes you utter and total shitweasels.

Thrice that if the subject of your comments is the teenaged girl walking not ten steps ahead of you, well within hearing range.

I have spent the past 40 years learning to control my temper. But this afternoon one gentleman just came within the count of ten of getting his head handed to him. And I don't mean verbally.



*Yes, everyone has different preferences. This is about not being a shitweasel. And don't give me that "men are visual" crap, either. What you respond to sexually and what words come out of your mouth are NOT inextricably linked (and if they are, do us all a favor and stay in your cave. Nobody - not male nor female -- is impressed.)

Comments

[mevennen.livejournal.com]

Making comments like that in earshot is just sleazy. It's pretty sleazy out of earshot.

[reddiana.livejournal.com]

Respond with, "Y'know, every time you comment on a woman's breasts, your dick shrinks."

Then follow with a pointed look and say, "I guess you must make a lot of tit-related comments."

[lagilman]

I was afraid if I said anything, it would not stop with one line; when I get that angry I tend to go for the jugular. And he didn't look like the kind of guy who would be shamed into better behavior (mid 30ish, well-dressed, expensive haircut, very sure of himself, and his companion likewise. Similar to the guy who walked past the health care rally I was at last year who made a disparaging comment about people who earned less than $30,000/year, actually.... man, I SO hope that shitweasel got laid off).

[ubiquitous-a.livejournal.com]

OMG, when I hear people say shit like this in public, I can't help it, I HAVE to call those fuckers out. Whether its racism, sexism, ageism, or just amazingly damn rude, I finally get to the point where I cannot restrain myself any longer.

I'm generally very quiet and keep to myself, perhaps reading a book, having a drink....until the right button is pushed, and then BAM! I suddenly morph into a hybrid Batman/ninja/Catholic nun wielding my Bat-ruler of righteousness upon their unsuspecting shitweasel low-dragging knuckles. I smite them until they cry, threaten to tell their mama about it, and then I go back to my book.....even sometimes to the appluause of others in proximity.

[lagilman]

I've learned sometimes getting in someone's face - no matter how much I want to -- isn't the best response. Maybe it's cowardice, maybe it's common sense, but I've learned to pick my battles where I think I have a chance of at least doing equitable damage.

[ubiquitous-a.livejournal.com]

True, and I'm overstating it a bit. Generally, my response is limited to a pointed comment that kind of embarrasses the hell out of them and reminds them they are in a public place and people actually hear what they say.

Well, unless it's politics, and involves people saying shit that's factually wrong. That stuff makes me crazy.

And no, it's not cowardice. Considering how off-kilter some people can be, that's probably just your survival instinct kicking in. Of course, you live in NYC, which from my own experience living there years ago means that not getting in people's face is kind of a way of life. :)

[sinboy.livejournal.com]

Thank you for calling them out. That's a serious public service.

[sinboy.livejournal.com]

Eh, I'm OK with the er, way I am. I'm sorry that so many men can be assholes about this sort of thing, though.

[mtlawson.livejournal.com]

If you then turn around and make comments about a woman's sexuality based on the size of her breasts*, that makes you utter and total shitweasels.

Thrice that if the subject of your comments is the teenaged girl walking not ten steps ahead of you, well within hearing range.

You're being way too charitable calling them "gentlemen". And I wouldn't have blamed you if you'd have lit into them, either.

Considering they were checking out a teenager, I'd say that shows their maturity level is stuck in the high school locker room.

[lagilman]

The "gentlemen" was deeply sarcastic.


Considering they were checking out a teenager, I'd say that shows their maturity level is stuck in the high school locker room.

Well, it wasn't like she was fourteen - I'd estimate under-20 [I live a few blocks away from a college campus]. If she'd been obviously under-18 I suspect I -would- have hauled off on the guy.

As to the looking...I've yet to meet a guy, sleazy or civilized, who wouldn't check out a pretty girl/young woman. It might be as polite as possible, it might be with the brief wistfulness of "she could be my daughter, stop that," but they will look. Males. They're hard-wired to look.

Hell, so are women. We might be evaluating different things, but trust us, guys, we've noted, judged, and moved on before you even caught sight of us.

[mtlawson.livejournal.com]

The "gentlemen" was deeply sarcastic.

Good. I thought you were losing your touch for a moment.

Well, it wasn't like she was fourteen - I'd estimate under-20 [I live a few blocks away from a college campus]. If she'd been obviously under-18 I suspect I -would- have hauled off on the guy.

Okay. Unfortunately, I have heard thirty-something guys checking out the 15-16 year olds while at a restaurant, so I drew the wrong conclusion.

I'm not going to deny we don't look, but how we behave about it is the big thing. And when someone acts like how you described, that just makes me wince that we share the same chromosome.

[paulliver.livejournal.com]

For my own frame of reference, do women who judge favorably ever stop and strike up conversation, or is that just something I've seen on television? I really am curious.

[lagilman]

Just on the basis of looks, not often, I suspect. But if a guy says or does something that meets with approval, I have, at least. That act gives me the hook to say something.

[guys standing there looking pretty tend, sadly, to act like the proverbial God's Gift To Women, and very few women want something that's been regifted that many times]

[otterdance.livejournal.com]

"guys standing there looking pretty tend, sadly, to act like the proverbial God's Gift To Women, and very few women want something that's been regifted that many times"

Coffee spit moment. You are on fire today!

[cepetit.myopenid.com (from livejournal.com)]

You mean like, say, male sportscasters?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3a0zJb5FlAg

[ginmar.livejournal.com]

Yeah, if Oded Fehr sauntered by me in anything, I'd probably walk into a light pole.

Not that I need any help doing that. I'm talented, I am.

[seachanges.livejournal.com]

Gah, but that shit pisses me off!

[paulliver.livejournal.com]

There was an old Chinese novel, Ming Dynasty, I think, about a man who wishes to be a great lover but is informed that he has a very small penis. So he goes to a doctor for an enlargement by grafting a dog's penis into his. He leaves his wife to run around for years. After a variety of satirical sexual adventures, he hears of a courtesan who is supposed to be the most beautiful lover in the world. He goes to court her and finds she is his wife, who had turned to prostitution to support herself.

THere are two things I've avoided having measured so I don't get into the ego trip thing. My IQ is the other one.

[otterdance.livejournal.com]

Heh. If a dog's penis was bigger, then he really did have a problem. And they're weird looking!

[otterdance.livejournal.com]

"Shitweasel" ROTFLMAO I am so stealing this.

I was in a similar situation, and said to the young woman in question, loud enough for the shitweasel to hear, "Wow, what an asshole, eh?"

[(Anonymous)]

Living out in the county of SC, when a "bubba truck" is on my ass driving home, I slow down, and say, "yeah, baby, I'm sure the barrell of my pistol is bigger and longer than your dick." This always makes me smile ;)

[ginmar.livejournal.com]

If a guy's secure with himself and his, er, attributes, he can drive whatever he wants. Give me a guy who drives a Bug, I'm impressed.