Tuesday that feels like.. well, Tuesday.

[lagilman]

"If the notion is good enough, if it truly belongs to you, then you can't forget it—it will haunt you till it's written." - Truman Capote [This is both comfort and irritation when you can't carve out time to write it just yet... ]


Still working. BEA excitement starts today, but I don't hit the floor until Wednesday. Am torn between being "up" for this, and feeling like an afterthought as I see what everyone else is up to. I'm almost afraid to go to a friend's reading to see the turnout they get. And yeah, part of me knows that's silly, but it's also true. Readings can destroy the ego, especially when people say "oh we'll be there" and then you look out and it's empty... or worse, the only people there came to see the OTHER people reading. (that's one of the reasons I am hesitant to schedule signings/readings -- the person hosting expects a certain number of people to show up, and I'm proven to not be that much of a draw) Hello, self-doubt... But once I'm actually at the Center, the general enthusiasm will get me going, and I will be High Energy for my signings. This too I know from experience.

But for now, there is coffee, and a short story that has finally come open for me, and much else (less fun) that has to be dealt with....

EtA: also, apparently I am (surprise!) contrary. The more people who say "grow your hair long" the more I remember all the good things about keeping my hair short (and by short I mean 'above my shoulders."). It also amuses me how many guys are like 'grow your hair long, guys like long hair" as though that should be my main consideration -- if you decide if I'm attractive based on how long my hair is, we're not going to suit well, anyway.... hair length is subject to radical change on a whim. Attraction shouldn't be.

Comments

[cypherindigo.livejournal.com]

I haven't checked yet, are you doing a scheduled signing at Balticon?

[lagilman]

Saturday, 11am. I've also been given a half-hour reading Saturday at 4:30 pm, when people are more likely to be awake and not yet heading out to dinner....

[cypherindigo.livejournal.com]

I will definately be at the former, and will make a real effort to be at the latter.

[jhetley.livejournal.com]

Eh. Wife has kept her hair short for years -- easier to deal with. Ergo, I like short hair on a woman. Also, gray hair . . .

[rovanda.livejournal.com]

Guys *do* seem to love long hair - but if all they're attracted to is your hair, they're not worth your time! And short hair is *so* nice...

I clipped my entire head to about 1/4 inch in October and it freaked my husband out way more than I expected it to. Interestingly, I got lots of compliments from women and gay men, but none from straight men.

Currently, I'm working towards a half-and-half approach - clipping it short from nape to the top of my ears (the part that really drives me nuts) and letting it grow out from there up. It's working pretty well so far.

[mtlawson.livejournal.com]

EtA: also, apparently I am (surprise!) contrary. The more people who say "grow your hair long" the more I remember all the good things about keeping my hair short (and by short I mean 'above my shoulders."). It also amuses me how many guys are like 'grow your hair long, guys like long hair" as though that should be my main consideration -- if you decide if I'm attractive based on how long my hair is, we're not going to suit well, anyway.... hair length is subject to radical change on a whim. Attraction shouldn't be.

That's why I kept my mouth shut on the question. If you're asking me if I think you look good in longer hair or not, that's one thing, but you wanted reasons why you should grow your hair long or keep it short. And I can't answer that, because I don't really know you in the same vein as I know my coworkers or my old college friends.

[lagilman]

well, also I had sort of forgotten that what I consider long (shoulder to just-below-shoulder) is, in the general fannish world, not long at all (that being "mid-back" to "sit-on-it" length). So my question got taken a bit out of context...

Really short, to me, is above-the-ears. Short is below-ears to chin-length (the basic bob, which is where I'd been). Mid-length is chin-to-shoulders, which is where I am now.

I know for a fact that I look better with my hair above my shoulders than below, because of the texture/straightness of my hair. Also, fewer weird people try to pet me in the subway (true story).

[mtlawson.livejournal.com]

well, also I had sort of forgotten that what I consider long (shoulder to just-below-shoulder) is, in the general fannish world, not long at all (that being "mid-back" to "sit-on-it" length). So my question got taken a bit out of context...

If it makes you feel any better, I considered anything shoulder length or longer to be long. I don't often run into people who have back length hair.

I know for a fact that I look better with my hair above my shoulders than below, because of the texture/straightness of my hair.

Go for it. If you're happy with your hair above the shoulders, then that's fine.

Also, fewer weird people try to pet me in the subway (true story).

Say what? Okay, I'm curious...

[barbhendee.livejournal.com]

A few years ago, one of my guy friends--who is about my age--began expressing that he was really having trouble finding a woman to date. While he's not exactly Christian Bale, this man is fairly attractive, decent, and he has a good job.

I thought, "Huh? What's the deal?"

I have some single female friends, so I asked him, "What are you most looking for in a woman?"

I was thinking: kind, intelligent, hard working, funny . . . I wondered what he most cared about.

He answered, "I only like very slender women with long hair who don't wear glasses."

I stared at him. "Anything else?" He missed the sarcasm in my voice.

"Yes," he said. "I want her to be age appropriate, but to look a lot younger."

I thought, "You're on your own, buddy." Goodness gracious.

[mtlawson.livejournal.com]

Wow.

That reminds me of someone I once knew in college. She was smart and attractive, but she never really dated anyone very long. When I asked why, she said that she was only interested in a hot guy who was a doctor. "Oh," she added, "he has to be hung like a horse. That's very important."

I haven't heard from her in well over a decade, but it wouldn't surprise me that she's still looking.

[lagilman]

anyone who uses that phrase with a straight face has never been around horses. I'm just sayin...

[mtlawson.livejournal.com]

Having become acquainted with horses -sort of, if my oldest's summer horse camp classes count- all I can think of is how much it would hurt....