inquiring meerkat inquires

[lagilman]

I freely admit to judging people (especially men) by a) if they own their shit, and b) if they can be amused by their shit, especially if they do it in a graceful fashion (ex: RDJr vs Charlie Sheen). When I hold to that standard, I find I am rarely disappointed in a person.

What sort of 'tells' do you have, when observing someone new? How accurate is it?

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[rovanda.livejournal.com]

I go by instinct because most of my tells are subconscious - sometimes I have to counteract my instincts, like when I react to someone looking physically like someone else but their actions show them to be different.

A lot of the time, though, the instinct seems to be based on body language - nuances of eye contact, stance, posture, etc. as well as tone of voice and word choices. I can often identify why I have a reaction to someone after the fact, but I can rarely do so at the time.