quietly, quietly.

[lagilman]

I cried more today during the yizkor service than I did at my father's funeral. This is...not surprising. At the funeral we were still feeling shock that he was gone, and relief that he was no longer in pain.

Today, I was allowed solely to miss him, and mourn the space where he had been.

May all those who sorrow find peace.

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[mevennen.livejournal.com]

My best wishes.

i did not cry at Charles' funeral, nor at those of the friends who followed, nor my aunts' funerals. Then we went to T's cousin Dave's funeral and I cried and cried.

I'd never actually met Dave.

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Much, much love.

[lagilman]

thank you.

[lagilman]

Yeah.

The whole point of yizkor, I think, is to give us a 'safe space' where we are mourning in a group, yes for a particular person but also for all who have been lost (there are specific prayers for victims of atrocities and disasters, for example, to be said by all), distanced a little by time and shock.

It's a pragmatic religion, Judaism is. Kind of has to be.

[mevennen.livejournal.com]

That makes a great deal of sense.